You want some sort of movement. You want
to catch your spouse cheating or not catch them. You want to
get on with your life. You want to know the truth, face the
truth, deal with the truth and be free.
If you can catch spouse
cheating on you and if you suspect that this behavior might be
the end of the relationship, you want to protect yourself
legally. If divorce is considered, an online
divorce service is
an inexpensive alternative.
If there is betrayal in the
form of cheating, and you catch them lying with deception
regarding a third party, other forms of cheating may exist
financially or in other areas of the relationship. When you
catch your spouse cheating with “evidence” this does have some
impact in some court systems. Whether you need to protect
yourself legally depends on the kind of affair facing you and
the character of your cheating spouse.
After you catch your spouse
cheating you will want to protect yourself medically. You
might be concerned about sexually transmitted diseases you
might catch. Your health may be at stake. And, of course, you
need to know were they cheating and do you have to worry.
Secrets are a drain. If the
secret persists, its impact is felt in subtle but insidious
ways. People become physically ill, sometimes seriously so.
People become depressed. You catch people starting to do crazy
things. Children start acting out, stop achieving, become
listless or exhibit a host of other symptoms. Children, or the
next generation, often carry the emotional load.
You want to discover the
truth. You want to feel the freeing power of the exposed
secret and the opportunity it offers for healing, resolution,
a rich relationship and a productive life.
Is Spying an Invasion of
Privacy If You Catch Them Cheating?
My, how the person involved
in the affair cries foul when he/she catch on that you are
Outrage can be intense: “How
dare you think I'm cheating!! I never thought you would stoop
to that! How could you!? How can there be trust in this
relationship when I catch you doing that? This is none of your
business; I don’t spy and go behind your back! Now you know
why I want to pull away from you. How could I love anyone that
would do something like that to me? On and on.
Usually the person having the
affair does not see or will not admit the duplicity of his/her
clandestine behavior. But you are made out to be the villain
if you use detective work to discover the truth.
Spying is often used to grasp
the reality of the situation. It’s intent is to find the
truth. Only the truth can provide a foundation from which to
begin resolving the hurt, pain and forging a direction for the
marriage and enable each person in the marriage to attain
health and sanity.
Ready to Handle What There is
to Find Out About Your Spouse?
Have you considered the many
situations that spying might uncover? Is it imagineable the
worst thing you might find? Predict what your response will be
to the worst-case scenario.
Keep it to yourself.
There usually is no reason to
share new found information with family, friends, children or
the spouse of the other person. A concern about sexually
transmitted diseases or health risks might be an exception to
inform the other spouse. If it is important to share such
information, do so without much fanfare or drama. And of
course, when pursuing legal action, any information obtained
through spying is sometimes might be helpful to your attorney.
Some “evidence” does carry weight in particular states or